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Building Meaningful Connections FAQs

Frequently asked questions

What happens after BMC?

At the conclusion of the facilitated portion of this program, men find greater compassion for them-selves and others. With other men by their side, they can continue their journey with renewed confidence, trust, and optimism. They may continue in the existing group and/or attend other Victories programs – as a group or individually. Personal growth is a journey and we would welcome the opportunity to “be alongside you” every step of the way!

Any rules or expectations I should know about?

We believe that the experience is enhanced when men take a break from the cares of the everyday world and focus on themselves.

  • We ask men to put away mobile devices during our sessions
  • To keep men focused on themselves, we ask them not to talk about their jobs, politics, religion, or sports.
What is the program schedule?

This program begins on the weekend of 2/5/21 where three sessions will be hosted. After that weekend, the group will meet every two weeks on Wednesdays for seven sessions (until 4/28/21).

Who staffs this program?

Our leadership team is composed of three leaders, and tech support staff. Everyone on the team has attended our weekend programs and received training in the group processes. Men are chosen for leadership based on their own personal growth, integrity, compassion, and commitment.

I am in a 12 step program. Is Building Meaningful Connections right for me?

Victories does not offer professional psychological or psychiatric services or addiction counseling, nor are its programs specifically designed to address the issue of addiction. This weekend is not appropriate for men who are working to manage active addiction. However, men who are in a 12 step program and/or consistently working with a therapist or counselor will find the weekend to be an additional space of compassion and support.

Is this therapy?


Is financial assistance and/or payment plans available to attend the program?

Victories does not want financial obstacles to stand in the way of a man who is ready and willing to participate in a program . We invite men to ask for the assistance they need. Financial assistance and payment plans are available. Interested participants should contact the Victories Office for more details.

Is this program welcoming for men who men who identify as gay, bi, or trans?

Yes, all men are welcome to this program.

Does Victories require men to subscribe to any set of beliefs? Does it have a religious component or affiliation?

Victories is a secular organization and has no religious component or affiliation. We welcome men of all religious, spiritual, and secular persuasions.

How will I know if I am ready to attend BMC?

Men are ready for this program when they decide to make an important change in their lives and/or desire to accelerate their personal growth. Men are ready for this program when they are open and willing to explore new ways to connect meaningfully with other men.

Will I be pushed into sharing what I don’t want to?

We encourage all men to participate fully in the program, which includes sharing your own life experiences and emotions. Your participation in any of our processes is voluntary, and we will always respect your decision about participation without undue pressure or shame.

Is it normal to feel nervous before BMC?

You are going to meet a group of strangers and to talk about your life and your feelings. For many, this is not a “normal” way to spend our time, online or in person. Apprehension is a normal and healthy response to the unknown. Over the course of our time together, men access their own inner strength in a safe place, under the guidance of other men, and with the powerful support of new friends. Our goal is that as a result of this program, men will feel accomplishment, confidence, and hope.

What are the advantages of participating in BMC?

Exploring important issues as part of a group deepens one’s experience and personal growth. Men are particularly susceptible to isolating themselves and embracing the belief that “I am the only one who is experiencing this.” This program provides the validation and healing that comes from the realization that one’s concerns and stories are shared and accepted by others. Speaking and listening, helping and supporting other men is empowering, providing a foundation for personal growth.

What happens at in the program?

All activities occur in the context of a group of approximately 12-15 men, consisting of about 10-12 participants and 3 staff. The program incorporates communication exercises, small group and one-on-one conversations, mindfulness exercises, journaling, and discussions.

Who attends the Building Meaningful Connections program?

This program welcomes men from all backgrounds regardless of race, age, religion, sexual orientation, or economic status. The ages of the men who attend typically range from the late 20’s to the 70’s. The minimum age is 21.

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